One thing that has become progressively more common in modern relationships is when the woman chooses to act single.
Whether it is flirting with other men in the presence of her man, appearing single online, or talking to other men behind closed doors, when a woman refuses to make it known that she is taken, it is because she is still leaving herself open to other men.
Now, I know some of you may be questioning what the relevance of this post is for and I am strictly here talking to men that may be struggling in the dating market.
The truth is, we live in a different dating economy now than we have ever before and that is due in part by online social media platforms.
Everything about how the world works today is about getting attention.
Both men and women are more easily accessible than ever before which creates a whole new slew of problems when trying to navigate the dating market.
One thing I think most men need to understand when it comes to dating is that if your woman still appears to be single or still acts single behind closed doors, it is because she is still leaving the door open to get attention from other men.
When a woman is in love, she will make it known that she is taken, plain and simple.
I am not saying your woman needs to blast you all over her Instagram page because believe me, making your private life too accessible and public will create more problems down the road.
However, if your woman is blatantly hiding you from the world, doesn't tell people about you, still talks to and flirts with other men whether in front or you or behind closed doors, it is because she does not respect you or see you as her suitable counterpart.
Men need to wake up and understand that if the woman you are dating is still making herself available, then you have no need to commit to her.
Any level of disrespect is not worthy of commitment and if she still acts single while she's with you, it is because she doesn't respect you.
One may be asking themselves "how do I tell if the woman I am with is still acting single?"
The answer to this question is subject to your situation, but some common ways for men to be able to tell if a woman is still acting single are as follows:
Refusing to post you online
This is one that may not seem like a big deal and in some cases isn't, but still a sign nonetheless.
There is a difference between privacy and seclusion.
In other words, you don't want everything about your relationship to be public (privacy), but if she is not making it public that she is with you then it is safe to say that she is hiding you (seclusion).
If she is hiding you completely, it is most likely due to the fact that she is still entertaining other men in her DMs.
Granted, men and are still men and are going to DM her regardless if they know she is with you or not, but if she doesn't make it known that she is taken, it is because she still sees herself as single and looking for attention from other men.
Flirting with other men in front of you or behind closed doors
This is one that men need to pay extremely close attention to.
As I have said before in previous blogs - smart men watch what women do and dumb men listen to what women say.
If you are out in public with your woman, then you have to pay attention to how she presents herself to other men.
Is she looking at other men checking her out?
Is she overly flirty with other men?
A woman who is serious about you is only going to have eyes for you, and if she is overly flirty with other men out in public, than you can guarantee she is doing the same behind closed doors.
How she introduces you to people
When a woman is serious about you, she is going to want to show you off as being hers, especially if you are a man that is desirable by other woman.
Women love to show off what they have that other women want, and the same goes for men.
Pay close attention to how your woman introduces you to her friends and her acquaintances.
Is she introducing you as just a friend?
Or is she introducing you as her man?
If you are just a "friend" you might as well be her Tinder date.
If she is purposely not trying to make other women jealous for having you or making other men envious of you, then she is still single in her mind.
Girls trips, bars, clubs, and social gatherings
This one is pretty self-explanatory...
If your woman is still making an effort to put herself in situations to be approached by other men, it is because she sees herself as single.
Women that are taken are not taking girls trips and going out to bars and nightclubs to all hours of the morning - they are at home waiting for you.
The more social your woman is, the more she is naturally going to want to be in these types of environments, and if she insists on being in these kinds of environments knowing very well that she will be around other men without you there, it is because she wants the attention from those men.
Whether she admits to wanting the attention or not is besides the point because most women that crave male validation aren't consciously going to admit it.
Most women that crave attention from men do-so subconsciously and this is why it is important for men to always pay more attention to the things that she does, not what she says.
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So now that we have covered the foundation of today's post, the next logical step would be to give men advice on what to do next.
What should a man do if his woman is still acting single while she is with him?
Well, there are a couple of different ways you could approach this situation.
The first one being - there is absolutely no reason for you to show any sort of commitment to her if she is going to act/appear single.
The worst thing a man can do is get too emotionally invested in a woman that is never going to see him as her man.
If she blatantly disrespects you, then you owe her nothing!
As a man, you need to voice your boundaries and let the woman know what you are and are not willing to tolerate before you make any sort of investment into her, that way you can leave it up to her to make the decision if you are worth it to her or not.
If she doesn't respect your boundaries, then you have every right to respectfully walk away and not be afraid to do-so.
If your woman still acts/appears to be single while she is with you, you can either have a conversation about it and see if it changes or respectfully walk away.
With that being said, if a woman is addicted to seeking male validation, it doesn't matter how many conversations you have with her, her addiction is always going to outweigh any sort of feelings she has for you.
In this case, it is smartest to walk away respectfully and keep focusing on pursuing your purpose in life.