Patience is a virtue.
One thing I think most of us could agree on is that patience is a rare commodity in today's day-in-age.
Living in a consumer culture where everything is so easily accessible via the internet, we as a society have been programmed to only see what is directly in front of us.
It is evident today that most people don't think about anything - just merely react to what is in front of them.
We mindlessly wander through the abyss of the internet and we just accept things as truth without ever stopping to question how conclusions were made.
If you have read any of my previous posts, you would know that I am a big advocate for people being able to harness the ability to think for themselves.
The power to think for oneself is the super power we all hold and is what separates us humans from every other living species on the planet.
If we fail to develop true critical thinking skills, then we willingly surrender ourselves to the system that is designed to keep us caged in whatever reality those who built the cages want us to live in.
If we fail to ask ourselves "why", then we force ourselves to think and behave like everyone else for the same reasons.
Now, I know some reading this may think they have had a different life making their reality subject to them and only them, but the truth is that human behavior is human behavior.
If we are distracted, then we all behave the same way.
If we fail to think critically about things, then we all falter to the similar behavior patterns of others, regardless of how different our lives may be or where we come from.
This is why the power of critical thought is so important - so that we can identify certain behaviors and create our own patterns that are aligned with where we want to go in life, especially as men.
The biggest difference between men and women is how we think - men are logical thinkers, and women are emotional/reactive thinkers.
One of the biggest problems we see with men today is that many of them think like women.
I would argue that most men in Western culture today think like women in the sense that they do not think about anything and simply react to what is in front of them.
This is what happens when men become distracted - the mind becomes fixated on what is directly in front of it and any form of rational thought goes right out the window.
I believe one of the biggest reasons men today live without purpose is because of the distractions.
Men today would rather sit at home and drool over women online, masturbate, and take shit care of themselves than actually go out into the world and be useful, competent men.
There is no patience if there is nothing driving you to become better, plain and simple.
If you have nothing to wake up and pursue everyday to make yourself useful, then you fall a victim to your own short term wants and desires.
Becoming a better person comes with a price, and that price comes in the form of sacrificing your own short term wants and desires to pursue a path of long term reward.
This is why men need to learn to be patient and why men need to learn how to wait.
Sure, dating in the modern world sucks, trust me, I get it, but if you are not working everyday to become as strong and as useful as possible, what value do you have to offer a woman?
The answer is none!
The worst thing a man today could do is focus on finding a wife if he has not taken any of the necessary action to first build himself into a man that is capable of protecting and providing for a woman.
You might not have everything figured out today and that is okay, but if you are doing absolutely nothing, then you can expect to get nothing in return.
To all of the young men out there, the best thing you can do is work to build yourself into a useful and competent man before you ever entertain the idea of becoming a husband and father.
Use youth to your advantage by learning as much as you can, acquiring as many skills as you can, and learning the ways of man before you have to wake up one day and realize that the time has come for you to take that first step into manhood.
Once you take that first step, there is no turning back.
Life will get harder and you will need to prepare yourself for when it does.
You must learn how to solve problems, become handy, and learn how to manage responsibility before a woman is ever going to be able to add to your life.
An important thing to note is that only the right woman will add to your life, because there are plenty of women out there that will take away from it if you allow it.
If you have no drive and you have no purpose to become your best, women will eat you alive!
Trust me on this one...
You must first learn to commit to things before you ever decide to entertain a woman romantically.
Commitment to anything is a long term game, meaning there will be ups and downs but the reward long term becomes worth the commitment.
Commitment to a woman is just that, a commitment.
It means that when you choose to bring a woman into your life, it's for a purpose.
If she is just hot and you want to have sex with her, that is not a good enough reason to be with her because she will never have anything to truly offer you.
Don't get me wrong, any young man out there should learn the game with women at a young age.
While you're working to make yourself useful, you need to learn how the game with women is played, meaning you need to learn how to communicate with women, date around, have sex, and get it all out of your system when you're young.
With that being said, you have to be extremely careful not to get caught chasing women because that will distract you from the bigger goal.
I do believe it is good for young men to explore the realm of women from the ages of 16-26 because if a man doesn't get it out of his system when he is young, his desires will carry over into his adult life.
Like I said previously, there will be a day where you will wake up and decide it's time to become a man and once that day comes, it means the sex and dating around stops.
If you cannot learn to wait and delay gratification, you will never have anything worth having in life.
Stop consuming porn online so that you can actually value a woman for what she has to offer you instead of just satisfying your simple desires right here right now.
Again, not every woman is going to have something to offer you and this will only become clear to you the more experience you have and the more focused you are on becoming the man you want to become.
A good woman will only be able to add to your life if you are pursuing a path that is larger than yourself.
If you can learn to wait and build yourself into a capable man, a good woman will become worth the wait.