Let me tell you all a story...
This particular story is about my experience dating someone with too much money for their own good (I say this sarcastically and mean not to offend).
About a year and a half ago, I had met this lady who came to the show Chippendales that I was performing in at the time. We met, exchanged contact info and were on our way, nothing more, nothing less.
After about a week of me talking to this woman, she started asking me what size clothes I wear, what kind of jewelry I like, and even what kind of car that I drive.
I didn't really know what to make of it because I am a relatively simple man. Sure, I do like nice things, but you're out of your mind if you think I give two shits about sporting a $400 t-shirt - I prefer my jeans, flannel, and cowboy boots.
Then, I started receiving offers to travel all over the world to the largest cities in the world - nothing about this felt right to me.
I had friends of mine telling me to ride it out and just take what I could get from it, but me being me, I felt like a bitch accepting anything from someone that I didn't actually trust.
It doesn't go without saying that I actually did like this girl because we got along well and we looked good together. I personally have trouble accepting anything without feeling like I earned it - it doesn't matter who it is from.
The whole idea of having a "sugar mama" didn't sit right with me from the beginning. In the end, I am grateful for some of the experiences because I saw first hand what living the high life was like.
The $6 million condos, the cars, yachts, clothes, trips - you name it, I lived it.
One thing I am most grateful for was seeing first hand that having all the money in the world still won't make someone happy or be at peace without fulfilling one's life purpose - without having to earn things.
When it comes to having "fuck you" money, the materialistic bullshit, the expensive trips, the cars, the yachts, the cosmetics, EVERYTHING becomes numb to you when that is what your life revolves around.
Living for the short-term gratification is the surest way to failure, regardless of how much money you have.
I have been on a yacht and yes, it was cool being a new experience. I never pictured myself on a yacht and I can say that I have experienced what it is like. With that being said, I could give two shits less if I ever step foot on another yacht again a day in my life because I have already experienced it. To be honest, I have had more fun spending the day on a 20 foot boat with friends and family than I did on a 120 foot boat to watch some fireworks.
This is what I mean by being able to appreciate the simple things in life, so that you can actually appreciate the finer things in life.
If you eat at a 5 star steak house every night of the week, it just becomes normal to you, and you appreciate it less the more you go. Whereas, if you eat at a 5 star steakhouse once a month, it gives you something to actually look forward to.
Since I have gotten first-hand experience on being "spoiled" for absolutely no reason at all except for being a good looking man, I now understand why people with money feel the need to spoil younger, more attractive people.
Today, you see tons of young, beautiful women all living that same life. Being flown out all over the world on private jets, yachts, cars, clothes, MONEY...
It is to no-one's surprise that these women are being spoiled simply because of their looks.
Some people with that kind of money do it because it genuinely makes them feel good to spoil other people, which breeds entitlement. But what I think it boils down to the most is the person in the position with the money, wants to have a certain level of power and control over someone else.
As a man, you want to have some form of control if you are going to lead and be the one responsible for the well-being of someone else. With that being said, there is much more to establishing that kind of control and respect, than spoiling someone with new things.
It is very easy to submit to someone who just buys you things and takes you places because it gives you a false sense of security that this person is capable of taking care of you.
The problem with this is, just because someone can prove that they can financially provide for you, doesn't necessarily mean they have your best interests at heart.
As I stated above, spoiling people whether it's with money or attention, breeds some form of entitlement. Now, someone genuinely believes they deserve something because they got it from someone else without ever actually having to earn anything. This is the common problem with social media culture today.
When you get things without ever having to earn them, you then fall into a trap. While it may seem like the person buying you things cares about you, you need to sit and ask yourself, "what has this person done to truly earn my trust and respect?"
Was this person there for you time and time again when you were going through low points in your life? Or was the only value they brought you shiny and fun, meanwhile, they just wanted some ass?
The whole sugar baby mindset is skewed - entitlement is the worst mindset a person could have. The idea that you deserve something just because you got it from someone else without actually having to earn it, is a trap.
I have said it before that it doesn't matter whether the rich billionaire pays to fly the girl around the world, or it is some broke dude at home paying $20 for her OnlyFans, the end result is the same - she becomes entitled thinking she deserves things without actually having to earn them.
I personally have never felt entitled to anything. I have always felt like I needed to work hard to earn the things that I want in life - this is why it drove me nuts when I had someone else trying to buy me things and constantly take me places.
I need to work for the body that I have, I need to work at building this brand, I need to work everyday at perfecting my craft as a horse trainer. I also need to work hard if I am ever going to be with a woman that truly respects me, so that I can give her the best possible life she could ask for. With that being said, she also needs to prove to me that she is worthy of my trust and respect, and I be worthy of hers.
When I look back on this particular experience in my life, I am reminded of just how grateful I am for everything that I have. I have really good friends that have had my back no matter what, since day one. I have family that loves and supports me. I have my animals that are my family and I would do anything to protect and care for. I also have a drive to get me places that I want to go in life.
I realize as I get older that most men lose that drive as they age - I haven't...
I am constantly on the lookout for what I can do to improve and make myself a valuable asset to the world in some way, shape, or form. I believe it is my duty as a man to be strong and be a positive force for anyone who genuinely wants to be a part of my life.