Calmness is a super power.
The ability to stay collected and clear with your focus during times of chaos or hardship is what will separate you from the rest of the world.
If I asked you to chose between being calm or being anxious, which one would you choose?
While the answer to this question is relatively clear, it is fair to say that most people would choose to be calm over being anxious.
Anxiety comes from a place of aimlessness that is often deeply rooted in our own insecurities.
Being anxious is uncomfortable and allows a million different thoughts to be racing through our minds, none if which we see as truly beneficial.
Being in a state of calm however, is quite different.
Calmness is rooted in our ability to relax, be patient, and be confident that we will make the right decision.
Even under the most stressful situations, staying calm allows us to focus with more clarity, and form more positive judgement.
In times of stress, we get to choose whether we want to be anxious or remain calm.
When we make decisions coming from a place of anxiety, we make these decisions from a reactive state of mind.
Our natural intuition becomes blinded and our insecurities begin to rise to the surface when we are not sure what we should do in a particular situation.
You may not have the answers right then and there, but being calm in these kinds of situations will assure you make a better lasting decision in the long run.
The answer will eventually come to you if you are able to rationally weigh out your options instead of feeling aimless.
In some of our recent posts, we have discussed heavily on the differences between reactive thinking and logic-based thinking strategies.
Anxiety plays to our emotions and what we are feeling in the moment, most of which we are uncertain of.
In other words, when we are feeling anxious, we are not necessarily sure of how we feel, other than we are feeling anxious, without ever truly asking ourselves why we are feeling anxious.
Remaining calm however, allows us to think more rationally and make a better decision without feeling overwhelmed from our emotions.
This is much easier said then done.
It’s easy to say being calm is more logical than giving in to our insecurities.
Being as that we are humans and we do feel things constantly, we often don’t think about how we can practice being calm.
There a few different ways in which one could practice being calm and patient.
The first one being is setting long term goals for yourself with small interim goals to reach along the way.
Setting a long term goal for something is the most sure way of practicing patience and delayed gratification, while the short term goals will reassure that you are on the right path.
Another thing people can do is find peace in solitude.
In the modern world, we are constantly distracted by technology and our need to talk to other people or have other people around us all of the time.
Finding peace in solitude will allow you to sit alone quietly and sort out your own thoughts.
With solitude comes deep moments of self-reflection and in these moments, we can get to the roots of our insecurities and what drives us emotionally.
Learn to trust the process and continue to show up for yourself everyday to reinforce your confidence in your ability to make smart decisions.
I learned to be the most calm by working with horses.
Horses are highly reactive creatures, and mother nature essentially programmed them to be as such as a means of survival.
Training a horse how to think and be calm is a challenge because it does not come natural to them.
By staying calm and consistent, the ability to work together with the horse not only teaches them how to think, but how to build their confidence.
We can all learn a thing or two from animals.
While not everyone is suited to work with horses, there are other ways in which you can practice being calm to ensure you have lasting positive outcomes in your life.