Part of being human, whether male or female, is having complete self-control - control over one's thoughts, emotions, and actions.
Self-control, like anything worth having, takes work and consistent daily practice.
As humans, we naturally get tempted by our own pleasures, whether it is attention, money, sex, drugs, alcohol, etc.
All pleasure is rooted in one thing: the desire to seek short term gratification.
Part of having self-control is to gain the ability to control of our simplest wants and desires and remain focused on some sort of goal or outcome in which we are trying to accomplish.
Whether it is a happy and successful marriage or a flourishing business, having full self-control is essential to our value and character, and is an essential quality for serving a greater purpose.
Part of being a man is having full self-control.
This means that in order for a man to be useful, he must first understand the power of directed focus.
Focus without any direction is an easy trap for any man to fall victim to seeking his own short term gratification.
Clear focus on something greater is how a man will be able to distinguish what is deserving of his attention and what isn't.
If a man wishes to be in a position to lead a woman and a family, his ability to control his natural urges and remain true to his purpose will be a step in him gaining the respect needed to be a leader.
A man that is focused requires discipline and confidence in his abilities to get things done.
Only then will he be able to position himself to lead a woman to a better life.
A man in full is a man that is capable of having full self-control, while being able to protect and provide for those that rely on him.
When it comes to being in a relationship with a man that is purpose-driven and focused, it is important to note that his desire to lead is not de-programmable.
A man that is in control of his destiny is naturally going to control everything in his environment - from the people he associates with, to the woman he chooses as a partner to share his life with.
This means that a man in full is naturally going to be more controlling when being in a relationship, not out of spite, nor out of insecurity, but as a means for everyone around him to achieve their fullest potential.
If a man has his own best interests at heart, he is naturally going to want the same for everyone around him, including his woman.