You hear a lot of men today talk about wanting to be with the woman that brings him the most peace, which is true!
Men naturally want peace when it comes to being in a relationship because as we have stated before, life as a man is stressful - the more responsibility a man has, the more stressful his life will be.
But when we think about peace, what exactly does it mean?
It is very easy for someone to sit there and say "I want peace" or "bring me peace", when the reality of it is, they cannot even find peace within themselves.
It is highly unrealistic for someone to say they are looking for someone to bring them peace when they cannot even find peace on their own accord.
True peace comes from within.
It comes from being able to find contentment and clarity in a place of solidarity.
If you think you need to buy designer shit to bring yourself peace, you are lying to yourself because peace of mind is something that no amount of money on earth can buy.
Sure, it can give you peace of mind to know that you can financially support your wife and kids, but at the cost of what?
Your time!
Your peace is something that you have to work for and continue to work for every single day, especially if you ever plan on expecting someone else to come into your life and bring you peace.
Peace comes with sacrifice - sacrificing the short term gratification for the long term reward.
Peace of mind as a man comes from knowing that you are capable of handling any situation that you get thrown into.
You handle the stress so that you can have peace of mind.
This is where true focus of the self comes into play and what I mean by finding contentment and clarity in solidarity.
When a man focuses on building himself, it is a war that he is fighting amongst himself every single day.
The drive to do one more rep, read one more page, spend one more hour on building the business so that he can one day spend one more hour with his wife, spend one more hour playing with his kids, and taking one more vacation every year with his family is how a man develops true peace of mind.
Peace of mind comes from the reward of completing strenuous work.
A man that is able to find clarity in his solidarity is a man that understands the power of harnessing focus.
It is mental clarity that brings peace from within, whether you are a man or a woman.
It is understanding yourself, what you are capable of, and being truly self-aware of your thoughts and behaviors that bring you peace.
When it comes to bringing someone else into the picture, it is a matter of choosing a person that has these same qualities, and values true peace of mind.
This is the only way someone is going to be able to bring you peace in your house.
First, you find peace within yourself - then you search for someone that is at peace with themselves.
Truth be told, it is easier than one would think to be able to distinguish someone that is at peace with themselves and someone who is not.
If you are a man in search for a wife, it is not hard to distinguish the difference between a woman that is purely searching for male validation, and a woman that is content with being who she is.
This is why authenticity is a highly valued trait that men look for in a woman.
There is nothing authentic about a woman deliberately putting herself in a position to get copious amounts of attention from men.
There is however, genuine authenticity in a woman that is not putting herself in a position to be accessible to men.
If you are a woman who has peace of mind and you truly want to be a wife, just know that the right man will naturally seek you out.
Men that are at peace are men that are purpose-driven and this is something that women need to look for when choosing to entertain a man.
While a man that is on a mission may have a stressful life, he understands that his mission is what brings him the most fulfillment.
Fulfillment is peace - it is understanding that everything that you do in life has a purpose and a meaning behind it.
If you walk through life aimlessly, praying you get hit with some fantastic opportunity that will change your life, it is never going to happen because what goes up must come down.
There is a reason why a majority of lottery winners end up going broke in just a few years after winning - a lack of preparation.
If you prepare yourself for the life that you want, peace and fulfillment are a natural consequence.
So, you either prepare to fail, or you fail to prepare - the choice is yours and always will be.