In yesterday's post, we talked about the main reasons as to why men value loyalty in a woman so heavily.
I mentioned in yesterday's post that there are different skill sets associated with a woman's ability to attract a man, versus keeping a man.
Today, I want to dive a little bit deeper as to what these skills are, the differences between attracting a man and keeping one, and provide context as to why men think the way that we do.
First, let's talk about skills.
In order for someone to be able to provide real genuine value to something, they need two things: knowledge, and skills.
A skill, be definition, is the ability to do something well.
In order for someone to be good at something, they need consistent efforts towards gaining knowledge and experience of the thing over a long enough period of time.
When you want to be good at something, it is a matter of putting your time, energy, and focus into that thing and truly aiming for the benefits of that thing.
Let's take business for example - when it come to owning a business, the owner of the business is going to need to be proficient at certain skills to build, run, and scale his business.
Things like advertising, sales, management, budgeting, building relationships, becoming a leader and many more are all skills that one person needs to learn to become good at business.
The point is, skills are required to be good at anything and skills are things that are not given away.
Skills must be earned through time, experience, and knowledge.
Men need to be able to acquire skills and knowledge to be able to bring any sort of value to others, whether it be in the marketplace, or his personal life.
One thing about men is that we are extremely simple creatures.
Assuming man has his affairs in order and is driven by purpose, he isn't really going to ask for much from a woman, besides what we covered in yesterday's post.
Women inherently know that men are simple and there are many women out there that exploit men that are easy targets.
A woman inherently knows that she can win a man over and get his attention by her beauty.
Throughout all of human history, women have always known how to pick the winners because it is deeply rooted in their biology to choose the man that gives her the best chance at survival.
However, in the modern world, women have figured out ways to exploit men for their short term benefit and it often ends up costing them in the long run.
It is extremely easy for a woman in the digital era to be able to get attention from a man simply by posting content of herself online.
Due to our inherent nature, men have always and will always be in pursuit of a woman.
In other words, men are always going to seek out women because it is in our DNA.
You have heard me say before that women are the advertisers and men are the salesman.
Basically stating that women put themselves in positions to be approached and men do the approaching.
This is inherently why it is so easy for a woman to be able to attract a man because men are always going to seek out women because it is in our God given nature.
Now, there are clear and obvious ways as to how a woman could increase the likelihood of men approaching her and that is simply by her choice of actions.
Women know that through beauty and promiscuity, they can easily captivate a man's attention.
While I wont go into the full details of promiscuity and typical promiscuous behavior because that can be found in older posts, a woman will increase her desirability the more she makes herself available to men.
Even if it is just for sex, all a woman needs to do is become more readily available.
Whether it's through dating apps, social media, going out to the bars or clubs regularly, wearing revealing clothing etc. the more accessible or exposed she is to men, the more she puts herself in a position to be approached by men.
Men are very simple by this metric because men are inherently attracted to beauty and sex because they reach the most primal parts of our instincts.
In a nutshell, this is exactly why women will find men to be "easy" or "simple" because they know that through very little effort on their part, they can get attention from men.
The reason why I put simple in quotation is because many women who exploit men will often find men to be simple because they understand a man's primal needs and urges.
However, understanding a man's primal needs and urges is far different than understanding what a man's actual needs are.
This is why it requires different skills for a woman to be able to attract a man, versus keeping one - it is a matter of primal needs and urges, versus a man's actual needs.
When it comes to keeping a man, again, men are extremely simple because we only want four things from a woman - peace, respect, loyalty, and belief.
A woman can keep a man by bringing him all five of these qualities and here is why:
The reason why a man wants peace is because his entire life is stressful.
When a man is busy working, fulfilling his purpose, and being a protector and provider, there's very little that man will have in his life that will truly bring him peace.
A man wants to know that when he comes home from a long day of work and stress, that he is going to come home to a woman that bring him peace and not one that starts petty arguments with him.
This is why men value feminine women because masculine, independent women are often not the one's that bring men peace, it is the soft and feminine women that bring men peace.
This is not a knock on a woman wanting to be independent, but the more independent a woman becomes, the more masculine traits she will naturally acquire as a result.
Agreeableness is not a quality that women in their masculine frame often possess and this is one genuine quality that men look for because agreeable women are more capable of bringing peace.
Respect is the biggest thing that a man truly wants from a woman because if a woman truly respects her man and allows him to lead, she will be loyal and believe in him and his capabilities as a man.
If a man had to choose between love and respect, he is going to choose being respected every time.
When a woman truly respects her man, it is because she respects herself - this means she is not making herself accessible to other men, she is not exposing herself to other men, and she values her time and attention, which means she values his time and attention.
A woman that truly respects her man is a woman that desires him and men genuinely want to be desired by their woman.
In plain speak, men want to feel wanted the same way that women do and it is from the passion and desire the woman has for him that he values.
Last but not least, a woman can keep a man simply by believing in him.
A woman that truly believes in her man and his ability to fulfill his life's purpose will give her man his ultimate source of strength.
Ladies, if you truly want to keep a man, believe in him and his mission because this is one of the highest forms of respect.
When a man knows that his woman believes in him and she is never going to leave his side, is his capable of doing anything that he wants in his lifetime and he will do it for her.
Men will go to the end of the earth for a woman that believes in him, respects him, is undeniably loyal to him, and is his peacemaker.
If a woman is able to uphold these four main qualities, she is going to be the type of woman than no man is ever going to want to lose.
This is how simple men really are.
I will agree that the majority of men out there lack purpose, and lack the skills and knowledge to provide genuine value to others.
Men need to be men in order for a woman to be able to follow his lead but it happens collectively.
When men start acting like men and women start acting like women again, then the topics of our daily conversations here at Playboy Ranchin' will begin to make a lot more sense.
I believe today's conversation is worth having because there are many women out there that genuinely believe they understand men and don't have even the slightest bit of a clue.
As I stated above, it is one thing to attract a man, but keeping him is something completely different and that is something that needs to be earned from both parties involved.